Listening Skills - Show Them How
Unfortunately, most of us do not listen well. Instead of listening attentively, we wait for that split second of pause to jump in with our own stories and comments, our eyes wander the room, and our ears focus on other sounds. Attentive listening is a discipline that needs to be developed. It doesn't just happen.
Attentive listening comes as a response to prayer—praying for the Holy Spirit to open the eyes of our hearts while attentively listening to a person verbalize emotions, thoughts, experiences, and doubts. What is the Holy Spirit prompting you to hear? Where do you see God moving in this person's life? Where are you noticing spiritual growth and discernment that was not evident earlier? This is not the time to compare stories, give advice, or reprimand a person's actions. Listening is a time to appreciate and discern what is happening in another's life.
Note: If you would like to have a copy of the full resource about the topic of listening from SmallGroups.com, please let us know. It contains articles on the following:
The Heart of Listening An overview on listening well. By Beatrice Rusu
Creating a Safe Environment for Your Small Group Because if it's not safe, no one will share. By North Point Ministries, Inc.
Having a Mindset of Empowerment Listen for growth opportunities. By Diana Bennett
Show Them How Teach your group members how to listen well by modeling. By Diana Bennett
Lead the WayThree critical listening skills for small-group leaders. By Joel Comiskey
Help Group Members Become Great Listeners Telling them the benefits and showing them how. By Rick Howerton
Small-Group Listening Skills Simple tips for becoming great listeners. By Bill Search
Learning to Listen The importance of paying attention. By Dave Treat